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Monthly Archives: January 2014

Making Space, Making a Dream Real

19 Sunday Jan 2014

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Over the years, I’ve had many night time dreams that have me going down into the basement of whatever house I’m living in, and finding new rooms there.  Or finding another set of stairs going down into another level that I hadn’t known about.  In those rooms are all sorts of different things, depending on whatever else was going on in my life at the time of the dream.  Sometimes it’s been old family furniture that is worthless and needs to be thrown out; sometimes it’s been boxes and boxes of fascinating books and archives that seem like treasure to me.  I’ve also had dreams of finding out that I had an attic that I didn’t know about, or going up into my attic to find an abundant cache of gems.   In one dream I found an new room several levels below my house, where I sat with a friend and had a great d & r (a “deep and real” conversation).

Well, there’s lots I could say about the probable meaning of those dreams, and perhaps I will sometime.  What I want to talk about now, though, is how to make some dreams come true.  Literally.

I live in a bi-level home, where you walk in the front door and there’s six step up to the main level, and seven steps down to the lower level.  (One of the side benefits of arthritis is that one tends to know exactly how many stairs it takes to get wherever you want to go. . . . )  I have my study on the lower level, filled with books, papers, paints, and canvases.  Filled to overflowing.  (My excuse is that it’s a small home.  My other excuse is that even though I may be only a few books short of an episode of Hoarders,  I do keep only the books I use or anticipate using, and besides. . .  if that’s my worse fault [a big “if”], well, get over it.)  But I digress.

I’ve been thinking for awhile that I want to do more small groups with women, facilitating Contemplative Writing groups or Dream Exploration groups, or even some Intentional Creativity groups in painting.  But where?  One of my limitations is that it is very difficult for me to do out in the evenings, and I work best when people come to me, i.e., to my home for visits or groups.  I have a Story Circle as well as art journaling afternoons around the kitchen table upstairs, but don’t want to increase the time that the kitchen is basically “off limits” to the other people that live here.

My study downstairs has always seemed too small to have more than three people in it at one time, and I’ve been eyeing the Video Room.  But that would again involve kicking out someone who lives here who is using that room as a “man cave.”  One of my gifts, though, is creating space where none seemed to exist before.  (Dear spouse calls that cramming too much into one cabinet, but he’s not writing this post. . . )  I started looking at my study, walking around with a measuring tape, checking out the sizes of bookshelves, tables, carts, footstools, and chairs.  I decided that a storage room might as well be packed to the ceiling, put some boxes and small furniture into the garage (well, asked the strapping teenager here to do the heavy lifting), took a few bags to the Salvation Army, and had a friend help me vacuum, clean and organize the room.

I measured and thought about what kind of table would work well for small groups.  My kitchen table is wonderful, but besides already being used in the kitchen, is too big for my study.  I thought an oval table that easily seated six, preferably with a pedestal base, in a light color, with chairs that aren’t too big, would be perfect.  I didn’t want to spend the money for a new one,  and I’m not one for following things like Freecycle, Buy and Sell,  or Craigslist.  However, my son volunteers for the Salvation Army Thrift Store, and last Saturday when picking him up, my table had just been put out onto the floor for sale, and at a price I would happily pay. All wood, pine, seats six, with three chairs (just the extra number I need), pedestal base, and just the right size.  And it’s already broken in!  It looks well loved, with a few scratches and stains so that when I inadvertently add a stain or heat spot to the surface I don’t have to get all upset!  In a stressful world, I want my furniture to be stress free.

My study is still filled with books, still has my comfy lazyboy chair, but now is spacious enough for a small group as well.  Dream come true: I found a new room in my basement!

Some things I learned (again) about making dreams real:  some days call for 15 minutes of work, 15 minutes of rest, but that still moves the project forward; other days call for only 15 minutes of work, and that still moves the project forward; things always take longer than you anticipate;  when you can’t have everything you want, now, you can often have what you most want, now; you can squish more square and rectangle containers on a shelf than baskets and circular containers;  exchanges of time and energy with friends and family are really win/win; and it’s always important to listen to your dreams . . . including your night time ones.

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05 Sunday Jan 2014

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Our Lady of the Milky Way a variation on Madonna and Child, by Cat Charissage

Hello Dear Friend,

Did you get a chance to rest over the Holydays?  What’s your favorite way to rest and renew yourself?  How do you make time for it in your daily (busy) life?

I both rested and put last year to bed, so to speak.  Since my old computer was not reliable, and Dell took almost 3 weeks to send a new one, I wasn’t able to do my regular online reading and exploring.  I only checked for urgent and important emails to respond to.  It was one of those blessings in disguise.  Starting just before the Solstice, I hauled out my year’s production of journals and arting, and read through 4 written journals and 6 art journals (which have a ton of writing in them as well, since I’m now only keeping the one journal plus this blog).  I try to do this every year between Solstice and the New Year, but am not always able to do so.  When I make the time, though, I’m always grateful that I did.  It’s one of the best ways possible for me to live intentionally and reflectively.

It was enlightening to see what I’ve done this year, and what I’ve NOT done.  I painted almost 15 paintings, written and arted those journals I mentioned,  helped my son in his self-education (well, it’s still “I homeschooled my son . . . ” but he is moving into more ownership and independence), worked with several groups of women, as well as with several individual women, went to two intensives with Dr. Estes, read about 55 books (depends on if I include CD series), resumed posting to this blog,  prepared over 150 sit-down meals, and lived through a breast biopsy, stuffed sinuses, flaming fibromyalgia, and awe-full arthritis, plus my spouse’s surgery and pre-surgery miseries, and my son’s getting braces.  Yet, I felt like I didn’t get done nearly as much as I had planned.  This journal keeping, memory keeping and reflecting on it, has helped me to know that this feeling is not a legitimate response to my reality, but is rather an old fear of not doing enough to “earn” my place on the planet.  Way past time to let go of that!

What I didn’t do, however, is just as important:  I didn’t do much house cleaning and hardly any grocery shopping; I didn’t do nearly as much “running around” as I used to; and I didn’t stress out about so many of the things that used to bother me so much.  I’m learning to let go, and to intentionally keep open space on my calendar and daily schedules.  Our Christmas was very simple.  We had Christmas dinner with our family in town, but didn’t try to travel to see Grandma and Grandpa.  My computer imposed internet break was very welcome (as soon as I knew a new one was on its way).

What about you?  Did you rest and reflect?  Do you have a regular break in your days and in your weeks?  I’m so convinced that the idea of a Sabbath is one we need to encourage each other to do; i.e., to take time to not do.  Personally, I fight FOMO all the time (Fear Of Missing Out).  Part of it is legitimately being responsible by continuing to learn in my areas of expertise; part of it is just wanting to be “in the know.”  While I can’t run around or travel easily, there’s still so many people to meet, places to go on the internet . . .

I’ll close by including these inspiring words of Wayne Muller from his book, Sabbath:

“Sabbath requires surrender  If we only stop when we are finished with all our work, we will never stop — because our work is never completely done.  With every accomplishment there arises a new responsibility.  Every swept floor invites another sweeping, every child bathed invites another bathing.  When all life moves in such cycles, what is ever finished?  The sun goes round, the moon goes round, the tides and seasons go round, people are born and die, and when are we finished?  If we refuse rest until we are finished, we will never rest until we die.

“Sabbath dissolves the artificial urgency of our days, because it liberates us from the need to be finished.  The old wise, Sabbath says:  Stop now.  As the sun touches the horizon, take the hand off the plow, put down the phone, let the pen rest on the paper, turn off the computer, leave the mop in the bucket, and the car in the drive.  There is no room for negotiation, no time to be seduced by the urgency of our responsibilities.  We stop because there are forces larger than we that take care of the universe, and while our efforts are important, necessary, and useful, they are not (nor are we) indispensable.  The galaxy will somehow manage without us for this hour, this day, and so we are invited— nay, commanded — to relax, and enjoy our relative unimportance, our humble place at the table in a very large world.”
May you be blessed and find all the happiness of your days,
With love,
Cat

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